You care about your relationship and want to make things work. Even the best relationships need care and attention. But, sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a cycle of conflict or disconnection with our partner that we can’t seem to find a way out of.
We try and try to fix things with our partner and yet we keep finding ourselves stuck and this can be so painful and frustrating for us (and the people we love)!
It is so hard when we want to be closer to our partner but none of our efforts seem to be working. And it can be even harder when it feels like our partner has stopped trying to make things better. Sometimes this goes on for so long that we don’t know if our relationship will ever get better, and we may wonder if its even worth saving. We may start losing hope and becoming discouraged.
As an experienced marriage counselor I have worked with hundreds of such well-intentioned couples who simply get stuck and are looking for help. I know what you are going through and I know how to help. Couples counseling is effective for even the most challenging relationships.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. This science has expanded our understanding of individual dysfunction and health as well as the nature of love relationships and family bonds. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.
EFT is best known as a cutting edge, tested and proven couple intervention, but it is also used to address individual depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress (EFIT – Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy) and to repair family bonds (EFFT – Emotionally Focused Family Therapy). This model operationalizes the principles of attachment science using non-pathologizing experiential (paralleling Carl Rogers) and relational systems techniques (paralleling Salvador Minuchin) to focus on and change core organizing factors in both the self and key relationships.
Marriage counseling really does work!
- Worried your marriage is too stuck to be saved?
- Don’t think your spouse or partner is willing to give it a try?
- Afraid you won’t find the right marriage counselor who is expert enough to help?
- Tried marriage counseling in the past and it wasn’t as helpful as you hoped?
- Or maybe you have a spouse who is so closed off that you fear couples therapy won’t be helpful?
I get these questions all the time. In fact, these are exactly the kinds of marriages I help save every year. Marriage counseling really is for all kinds of situations – even when a marriage feels hopeless to save. I have seen it all and I know how to help. Whatever you are dealing with today, I’d like to help you work through it so you can have a more peaceful, loving relationship.